
On Sunday, I went for a drive up to the town where my parents live. It's about 45 minutes from where I live, directly away from the city. It's the kind of place that you loathe, when you are young and stuck there on a friday night because you are too young to go out to a club, and because there really is nothing that you could term "adequate public transport". Having left said
sleepy town when I was 17, and now being the very wise and mature age of 31, I have had plenty of time to forget about all the things I hated, growing up there. It's funny how your memory does that - selectively remember good stuff.
Don't get me wrong - I still dont want to move back there. It's a suburban hell of housing estates and kit homes. There are maybe 4 pubs - none of which I would dare enter on a friday or saturday night for fear of being beaten up but a drunk
bogan local. The culinary options for dinner start at Chinese and extend to Italian and back to Chinese. Oh and Fish and Chips. I am yet to find a decent coffee in the entire town, and hold no hope of EVER getting a decent coffee - no-one embraces mediocrity like a small town in the outer suburbs in my opinion.
Anyway, despite all that - I have come around to the idea that the town itself is actually not a bad place to visit (for a few hours - a day, tops), and the drive is pleasant.. good even. The road goes past the airport, so if you are lucky, a 747 will fly over your car at only a couple of hundred feet. Then past the airport is rolling hills (currently green hills thanks to the recent rain).
My parents love to feed me. That's what happens when I visit - I get fed. I have been visiting a bit more often lately too, as they are currently in the process of
building a new house, so they love to take me up to the
property and show me
the new wiring, or point out where the wall oven will go (incidentally they are getting 2 wall ovens). I had been meaning to take some photos of the place while it was being built, and finally did so this weekend just gone. There is
one in particular that you should take a look at. I apologise for the lack of light..
This photo is the view over the back fence. As you can see, there is hill, some trees, a town in the distance, and well, a cemetary. Directly over the back fence. In fact, if you happen to occupy the bedroom at the very back corner of the house, the view out your window is crosses and tombstones. Creepy?
Nope. My family has a pretty good grasp of death and it's related traditions. My mum is a grief counsellor. My mum, dad and younger sister have a business creating funeral books. I myself only a few months ago, was engaged to create a video montage piece for the funeral of one of my primary school teachers. I presented it to the husband of the deceased the night before. My mum has a great outlook on death and the funeral process - buy the cheapest coffin, no need to spend money on the ceremony, etc. Family conversations have been known to hover around the topic of what funeral songs we would like (my younger sister wants a live band, probably featuring Jack White if possible - I would rather have a Chinese woman croon out Neighbourhood #1 by The Arcade Fire on a white grand piano, while someone releases 12 white doves, and perhaps one assassin eyes off another, finger on the trigger, in a back row pew. Or maybe some radiohead.. I dunno).
So the fact that they are building a new house that backs on to a cemetary is really no big deal to us. There was talk about growing a line of trees along the back fence just high enough to block the view (for friends and relatives I guess), but I am completely opposed. I say, if you live near a cemetary you should not shy away from it - in fact you should completely embrace it. As a side note, the cemetary behind them is no longer having people buried there, so there will be no random coffin sightings.
Maybe I'm alone on this one. My dad keeps joking about how he wont have to buy flowers ever again, but I sense a very small uneasiness in his voice. Going out to the shed at night may take on a whole new vibe for him.
One last thing - when my grandmother passed away (17 years ago, I think), her request was that she be buried somewhere close to the family. She got her wish - we can see her grave from the backyard.